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am not currently experiencing any disagreements or conflicts in my professional
or personal life. However, I will write about a previous conflict I had in my
personal life. The decision to end a friendship can be a difficult thing to do
for many people myself included. I had a disagreement with a friend about her behavior,
and how she treating me as a friend. To put it simply, she was dishonest. I
tried for months to solve the relationship but I made the decision to end the
friendship. When I think back on our friendship, I sometimes
think what I could have done to salvage it.
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two strategies I have recently learned might have helped to resolve the conflict.
First, I probably could have recognized the long term time frame of our
friendship, and perhaps approached the conversation differently. Second, I would ask an open question wait for
an answer and then respond, but I was so upset that I just ended friendship
without even having a conversation with her. I really don’t think there could
have been a compromise in the ending of the friendship. Sometimes we just have
to end certain relationships with people. I could have used some of the
principles of the 3 R’s but looking back I am content to no longer having a
friendship with her. I believe in great
communication and resolving problems but I also believe that it is okay for
some relationships to end. Sometimes it is best to just move on.
Dealing with conflict can be difficult at times and honesty and trust are essential components in any relationship. When we reflect back on any given situation we always can recognize an area where we could have communicated information differently and resolved conflict better. I agree there are times in our lives that we have to move pass in order to keep going forward.
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ReplyDeleteI would have to agree with you that not all relationships are meant to last. However, I do believe each relationship serves a purpose. It can be hard when you have had a relationship with a person for an extended period of time. I can think of a time when my college roommate and I were in an argument and not speaking to each other. We lived in the same dorm room, so you can imagine how difficult that was! However, we realized we needed to work it out by communicating with each other. We both hated confrontation, so we actually ended up communicating through emails in order to get out everything we wanted to say to each other. Oddly enough, this strategy worked! We are still close friends to this day.
Yes!! I agree that conflict can be very difficult at times, especially when it involves a close friend. I know that sometimes inviduals can be so stubborn to the situation and not wanting to talk their problems out. I know that whatever happened between the both of you hurted you to the point that you wanted the friendshiop to end. I don't know that expressing yourself to her and letting her know that whatever it is hurting you and that if she can be a better friend and if that didn't work out it was best that you let go of that friendship. Some people just don't deserve to be in your furture. .
ReplyDeleteYes it is difficult to end a friendship especially if there's a lot of years invested. One thing we have to remember is that everyone will not be in our life forever, some are just there for a season. What we learn within those friendships is what counts. I believe we learn how to communicate within friendships and we carry that with us to our colleagues and other areas in our life.
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